When you start off on your career ladder or your venture in to entrepreneurship, you probably feel much like the green tipped match! Bright eyed and bushy tailed and ready to set the world on fire.
Gradually as you pile in the hours and the graft , you slowly and steadily become one of the other matches at various stages if you don’t get the balance right. How do I know? Been there, done that and got the T-Shirt so many times.
If this is you, let me run this past you.
At the start you tell yourself that this is just a short term thing. Just until you get the first few months under your belt. Then it is, you will be grand when you get the next deal signed and delivered. It will all be great. I can rest in the summer holidays. You are feeling exhausted and those closest to you are telling you to slow down and take some time out. You are thinking, what the hell do they know? If you don’t do it, who the hell will? I am fine. Ive got this. They are all just getting on your case as they want more of you than you are giving.
Meanwhile even though everyone is telling you and you think that they are over exaggerating, your body and mind are working in full on overdrive. Invariably you try and be everything to everybody and the truth is you put yourself at the back of the queue when it comes to time, care and attention.
When you do stop, you get ill, rundown, coldsores, exhaustion, colds, allergies, skin breakouts..
Adrenalin and Cortisol have kept you going and when you stop it all comes crashing down.
Does this all sound familiar? Yes, I know. I was that woman.
I used to get ill every time I went on holiday. EVERY SINGLE BLOODY TIME. I felt all of those things above and I shrugged off any suggestion that I would burn myself out.
The Truth is burnout is not just having to have a few days off. Burnout creeps up on you like a sly f****r and when it gets you, BOOM, you are done. Any past traumas or issues that you haven’t ever dealt with all come to the surface at the same time that your body and your mind fall to bits! It is a whole world of pain and no week off is going to fix it. There is no quick fix.
I wish there was someone like me, that could have helped me find that balance and make me listen. The truth is, what will make you listen? I am honestly curious. Drop me a message and let me know.
When I get asked this question, “Jules, how do you get your clients to realise that they need your help?” my answer is invariably, that you can’t. All I can do is plant those seeds. Share the message and when the time is right for them to listen, they will. My personal challenge is for women to listen before they hit that horrendous wall.
The truth is that women can have it all if they really want it. But not without balance and without prioritising themselves as being vital in their own life as a human being. That sounds barking mad doesn’t it?! So many women are Human Doings and not beings. They miss themselves from their list of priorities.
I spent too many years being a Human Doing and it took four years to become a fully functioning human being once again.
I now help women have it all. I help them to achieve success with balance whilst still earning the money and living the life that they want. Ideally before they have to rebuild themselves without losing it all first.
If this resonates with you and you want to achieve this balance please get in touch. I would love to help you.